This is such an incredible time to be alive! Yes, it’s unsettling and sometimes exhausting and even heartbreaking. And it is also powerful. We all get to witness and participate in huge societal shifts. This is an opportunity to co-create a major evolutionary shift toward a saner and more just world. We have a chance to make all of this upheaval really count for something beautiful.
Although there is a lot of fear swirling, and being slung around, just now, this is actually a time for those of us who are committed to personal expansion and societal healing to practice unbridled fearlessness. Yes, indeed, we are all being moved out of our comfort zones, but hey how comfortable was it really? As American composer John Cage once said, “I can’t understand why people are frightened of new ideas. I’m frightened of the old ones.” Exactly!
Lesson 310 in A Course in Miracles affirms, “In fearlessness and love I spend today.” Let’s choose peace. Let’s choose hope. Let’s choose love. Let’s go boldly forward demonstrating unbridled fearlessness. Why not? Living and moving from miracle mindedness is just so dang much more fun!
This is an incredible time to be alive. You are here for a reason. Make the most of it!
I was recently interviewed about my book on the World Spirituality podcast on Unity Worldwide Radio. We spoke a lot about navigating uncertainty and times of upheaval. Here’s the link in case you’re interested.
We are indeed living in wild times – an out of control pandemic, economic upheaval, and a heated, much needed, moral revolution. This is a time when it is enormously helpful to be able to disconnect our inner state of being from the events swirling in our lives.
Several years ago, when my life blew to pieces, my survival depended upon learning how to maintain peace and calm in the midst of chaos and tremendous uncertainty. One of the biggest skills I wound up developing was the ability to analyze and manage fear. The truth is most of our fears are about some future possibility, that may or may not happen. As Mark Twain noted, “I am an old man and have known many troubles. Most of them never happened.”
I was recently interviewed on the Unity Online Radio program, Jazzy Vegetarian, about my book, When Life Blows Up: A Guide to Peace, Power and Reinvention. The show’s host, Laura Theodore, covers a breadth of issues beyond just vegetarianism. In this episode she really focused in on the uncertainty of our times and facing and managing fear and anxiety. The link to the show is here. I hope it is useful to some. By the way, Laura is a great, and truly very jazzy host – super fun and entertaining presentation style. And even when she’s focusing on other topics, she still offers up some great healthy food info.
Here is an excerpt from my book that gives a great tool for managing fear:
“Learn the art of “Presencing”, of practicing being in the Present Moment.
The simple fact is that unless we train ourselves differently, most of us spend the bulk of our lives focused on the past or the future, often in fear. If you’re reading this book you’re likely dealing with some difficult, even traumatic situation right now. There are probably a lot of unknowns, worry, angst. But ask yourself this, right now in this very moment, are you basically OK? Are you right now, under direct attack? In this very moment are you warm? Do you have shelter and food? Are you breathing? If you have time to read this sentence your answer is almost certainly yes!
To become present, look around you right now wherever you are. Notice the sights. Take a deep breath through your nose and notice the scents. Listen to the many sounds and the little silences between them. Feel the chair beneath you, supporting you. Focus on the breath gently moving in and out of your body. Feel the rhythm of your beating heart. Run your right hand gently across the top of your left. Notice. Breathe. Say aloud, “I Am here. I Am here. I Am here.”
Let your body release its tensions – loosen the jaw, drop shoulders. Underneath all the noises and sounds feel the deep stillness of the earth and sea. Breathe. Deeply. Look around and feel this moment in time. Release and relax.
Developing a presencing practice takes exactly that — practice. The more times each and every day you bring your focus back to the present moment, even for just a second or two, the calmer and less stressed you will be. Not only will this help you navigate trauma more easily, it will add all sorts of additional beauty and richness to the good times.
Coming into the present moment gives you the space to clarify the fears that are about imagined future happenings, those that are about things you have no control over and those that might actually merit some action. I highly recommend reading The Power of Now, by Eckert Tolle.
This very moment, this instant of now, is really the only thing we can control. The state of consciousness we choose in this moment sets the stage for what happens next. In the now we can choose the feeling we want to experience. That’s right — you do not have to be at the mercy of your emotions. You have a choice in how you feel and you can learn to wield this power with skill and consistency, even when facing extraordinary challenges.”
Hang in there friends. Breathe. You are not alone. And there is tremendous opportunity in this time of profound change.
Nearly anytime we are facing major change, especially if it isn’t something we asked for or planned for, there is usually fear involved. As we head into a weekend I wanted to share a couple of excerpts from my book that are useful for taking our minds back from fear and reclaiming peace even in swirling circumstances:
Fear is learned through the guidance of our parents and through our own falls and hurts and heartaches. Some of it we’re hard-wired for like the fear of abandonment and isolation. Another layer is piled on from the culture of fear we’re experiencing in our current media and political atmosphere. We’re literally saturated with fear which can compound the dread when something catastrophic happens in our personal lives, even to the point of become incapacitating.
Fear is programmed into us. With discipline we can train ourselves to determine which fears merit action and which are just a waste of time, mind, energy and peace. A thing learned can be unlearned. This particular unlearning is liberating beyond imagination. — from When Life Blows Up: A Guide to Peace, Power and Reinvention
Here are a couple of strategies I outline in the book that have been tremendously helpful to me and to those I work with in releasing unnecessary, unproductive fear:
Learn the art of “Presencing”, of practicing being in the Present Moment.
The simple fact is that unless we train ourselves differently, most of us spend the bulk of our lives focused on the past or the future, often in fear. If you’re reading this book you’re likely dealing with some difficult, even traumatic situation right now. There are probably a lot of unknowns, worry, angst. But ask yourself this, right now in this very moment, are you basically OK? Are you right now, under direct attack? In this very moment are you warm? Do you have shelter and food? Are you breathing? If you have time to read this sentence your answer is almost certainly yes!
To become present, look around you right now wherever you are. Notice the sights. Take a deep breath through your nose and notice the scents. Listen to the many sounds and the little silences between them. Feel the chair beneath you, supporting you. Focus on the breath gently moving in and out of your body. Feel the rhythm of your beating heart. Run your right hand gently across the top of your left. Notice. Breathe. Say aloud, “I Am here. I Am here. I Am here.”
Let your body release its tensions – loosen the jaw, drop shoulders. Underneath all the noises and sounds feel the deep stillness of the earth and sea. Breathe. Deeply. Look around and feel this moment in time. Release and relax.
Developing a presencing practice takes exactly that — practice. The more times each and every day you bring your focus back to the present moment, even for just a second or two, the calmer and less stressed you will be. Not only will this help you navigate trauma more easily, it will add all sorts of additional beauty and richness to the good times.
Coming into the present moment gives you the space to clarify the fears that are about imagined future happenings, those that are about things you have no control over and those that might actually merit some action. I highly recommend reading The Power of Now, by Eckert Tolle. ….
Do a Fear versus Reality exercise.
Take a sheet of paper and draw a line down the middle to make two columns. Recall a time in your recent past when you were really fearful or worried about some potential event or outcome. When you felt frantic over some crisis. Let yourself really feel how the fear was affecting you, your thoughts, your body, your sleep patterns. In the left hand column write down this feared thing and the terrible outcomes you imagined or expected.
Now remember what actually happened and in the right hand column write down what actually came to be. Did the feared event turn out as you imagined? Was it as bad as you feared? Where is that big challenge now? What was the damage done or the loss suffered? Did any positive growth or learning occur? Were there beautiful aspects of it that you didn’t see coming?
Sometimes feared things do come to pass. The loved ones we worried about meet tragedy. Our unwise or misguided decision costs us our home or freedom. The person we want to be with leaves us. This human experience brings hardship and sometimes we can see the hardship coming. However, most of the time we don’t and most of our modern day fear is based on imagination and speculation about possible future events that may or may not shake out a certain way. Mark Twain once noted, “I am an old man and have seen many troubles, but most of them never happened”! Our unmerited fears do nothing except rob us of our power, peace, and wellbeing. We have the power to release them.
Have a lovely, fear-free weekend.
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Love,
Cylvia
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This is such an incredible time to be alive! Yes, it’s unsettling and sometimes exhausting and even heartbreaking. And it is also powerful. We all get to witness and participate in huge societal shifts. This is an opportunity to co-create a major evolutionary shift toward a saner and more just world. We have a chance to make all of this upheaval really count for something beautiful.
